Last Updated on November 1, 2021 by Team CrazyJackz
Jumping from one relationship to another is not very surprising nowadays. I ain’t suggesting that it’s wrong. It’s totally your choice how to wish to live your life. Though ending up with a narcissist is the worst thing you can do. The way they exaggerate everything good about themself and be okay with everything negative in them is absolutely gross! They have this tendency of continuously demotivating and downgrading everyone around them just to make sure that they feel superior. I mean why be around such people.
And if you’re in one such relationship, no offense you are wondering how long it will last. It will depend on how long you can cut them slack and how long you can put up with their shit. But, what if it is a narcissist rebound relationship? To be honest, it is even worse. It can end at any time even without any reason.
So, there arises a big question here.. How long will a narcissist rebound relationship last? What are the stages of a narcissist rebound relationship? Do narcissist rebound relationships usually last? If not, How long does it take for such a relationship to end? Let us see..
How Long will a Narcissist Rebound relationship Last? (On Average)
When you’re looking for an answer like this, ask yourself! How long can you take their not so acceptable behavior towards you? Relationships with such people cannot last much longer, not until they decide to change. No matter how hard you try, it’s always your fault, according to a narcissist.
On average, you can stay with a person like this for six months, for a year if you are strong enough to take more of their bullshits.
What are the Stages in a Narcissist Rebound Relationship? The 3 Stages
Being with someone who is all about themselves is a very brave job, according to me. Being in a relationship with a narcissist for a very long time will completely change your perspective on how relationships are.
After narcissists come out of a long-term relationship, they feel as though they have been set free from the most exceedingly terrible jail on Earth and should now utilize their time. Since narcissists feel persuaded and motivated by their newly discovered opportunity, they frequently search for new exercises and individuals to draw into themselves. To them, they wish to continue on from the past relationship as fast as they can.
They do as such on the grounds that they don’t wish to be helped to remember their ex—so they rapidly grasp the absolute first chance coming to their direction. Falling for these people is very easy because that is what they are aiming for.
First stage: (Infatuation/Honeymoon Stage)
Coming away from his/her ex, the Narcissist once again feel extremely glad to cherish and to be adored by someone. In any case, one thing they first don’t understand is that they feel overexcited due to the furthest limit of their past relationship. Because of their serious need and strange idealism for another heartfelt chance, they charm over their new accomplice and raise that person high overall needs. In this beguiled phase of a rebound relationship, narcissists set this new individual so high up in place of worship that they consider the person in question to be an individual without any defects. To them, they change their new sweetheart or lover into a heavenly being unequipped for erring.
During this phase of exceptional alleviation, narcissists post cheerful pictures with their new rebound, go out a ton, date, party, and do something contrary to what narcissists are utilized to them doing.
Second stage: (Devaluing Stage)
In any relationship, after a few days, the couple’s underlying adoration chemicals wear off. The couple at last notices each other’s defects. Things that didn’t trouble them previously, abruptly do now and they make a point to communicate that. Since the couple is as of now not frantically enamoured with one another, it starts to see each other’s real nature. Reality gradually leaks in each day in turn until it arrives at its full structure.
Although most couples comfortably deal with this stage, by understanding each other. However, it is not the same case with a narcissistic partner. In the truth phase of a rebound relationship, the narcissist starts to become irritated. Weaknesses, frailties, rashness all rise to the top in this second stage. This implies that if the narcissist hopped from one relationship into the following one with next to no spirit looking at all, the individual in question will repeat the issues of the last relationship. The narcissist in this stage bit by bit start to contend and quarrel about the seemingly insignificant details they beforehand handily excused. They begin battling for force and control in the rebound relationship and test your understanding.
And then comes the time when narcissists finally get over you. Once you start reacting to their mistakes, they start blaming you back for their mistakes. When you’re in a rebound, being with them is harder than you can imagine. They will make you feel more than bad about yourself. Say, you get into a fight with them, they will very naturally put everything on you making you feel like you’re the one wrong even if it’s them. They won’t feel any remorse about the fact that they are hurting you or you are not in a good space because of them. Looking after you and caring for you is far from their priority list. And maybe they care for once, but their narcissist personality will not let them put a step forward and make you feel better before they feel superior themselves. They and only they are their priority.
Third stage: (Discarding Stage)
They will finally leave you hurt and confused. They won’t care for your feelings because now they want someone new. These people have no remorse for their actions, they have a different world in their head where they are the heroes and nothing they do can be wrong. Some even have a habit of putting it on something so gross. They will leave you saying that you’re toxic to them when the case is totally opposite. They will make the whole thing about self-love. Honestly, most of them won’t even care to explain.
Sometimes, the narcissist may even return to his/her ex-partner again, thus leaving you much more confused and disheartened
Why does a Narcissist Rebound Relationship usually Doesn’t Last Long? Reasons –
I will put up honest and very simple reasons for you –
- Nobody can stand them more than that – The reason one can be with these people even when they know how hurt they are and how much they are going to be is that they will convince you that this is how it is supposed to be. The more you stay with these people the more you will turn into thinking that this is how a relationship looks like. The level of mind games they play, the manipulation, no one can stand it for more than a year of course. No matter how much you start caring for a person like this, you will eventually give up unless of course, they change. No matter how intelligent or smart you are, they will trap you anyhow. And the last thing you need to do is blame yourself because they will do it enough.
- They are bound to do something or the other to hurt you – These people do not settle for one person. In simpler words, they get bored after a period of time. No! Not because you are boring, but because they need more and they are never fully satisfied. They are done with playing with you, and now they need a new toy. Not forgetting to mention, they might decide to come back to you again after. But the reason this time will also remain the same, to play with you, to hurt you, to satisfy their constant need to feel that they are the best. When they are bored of you or say done with you, either they will leave you or they will start engaging with someone else i.e. they will probably start cheating on you. And please do not blame the other person they are with, rather feel sorry for them because stay assured that they will go through the same.
You know at the end I will add this. A rebound relationship with a narcissist might last till death. This is when you do everything they want which includes being fooled. If they gain their constant supply & the narcissist has abundant strength to deal with their shenanigans in their later years. Without the supply, their partner will soon be rejected if they don’t adhere to the narcissists’ needs.
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