One of the peculiar quality of a narcissist is the lack of empathy,
Yes, Narcissists have zero empathy and this makes them so unpredictable, especially in relationships.
You never know when a narcissist leaves you or ignores you or loves you. So, where does this unpredictable relationship with the narcissist end up with? what a narcissist does at the end of a relationship?
5 Things a Narcissist does at the end of a Relationship:
See, you may have already seen many websites which bombard you with some absolute non sense, which are no way practical. But I at crazyJackz only give you practical conclusions that are true to real life.
1. Brainwashing the mind of the partner:
Manipulation is the technique that narcissists use to get what they want from people. Simply, in accordance with time, they manipulate their partners to get the narcissist supply from them.
The biggest manipulation that is done by the narcissist is when the relationship is about to end. The narcissist completely brainwashes that you are the reason for the damage of relationship. They even manipulate you to believe that you are a drama queen or some kind of a very sensitive person. In simple, the narcissist creates a belief in you (even without your knowledge) that you are unsuitable for any relationship.
2. Starts the search for a new narcissistic supply:
A typical narcissist is always in search of the narcissistic supply. So, as the relationship is fading now, the narcissist suffers the lack of the narcissistic supply. The lower the narcissist feels your value, the lesser your relationship strokes his/her ego.
Thus, the narcissist constantly starts searching for a new narcissistic supply. This is generally a new partner or a new ‘friends with benefits’ relationship. You need to remember, that sometimes even if the narcissist cannot get a new partner, you can clearly see his/her search for the narcissistic supply from other sources like extreme focus on career, learning philosophy etc
3. Discard you all of a sudden when he/she feels so:
This is the saddest thing, and also the biggest reality about a narcissist. When the narcissist is ending the relation, he/she does it in a sudden awkward way. They can suddenly block you and discard you even without any reason. In fact, this is what makes a breakup with the narcissist a nightmare.
Generally, the narcissist discard can range from blocking you on social media and to completely ignoring you forever. That too all of a sudden without giving any closure to the partner.
4. Starts abusing you, constantly triggering guilt:
As I have already told, narcissists have zero empathy. Thus the lack of empathy can turn up into some serious abuses especially when the narcissist is ready to move on. Additionally, some narcissists even feel that with abusing, making you cry and weep, they can get their control over the relationship.
So, if your narcissist is constantly abusing you and your abilities, soon your narcissist is going to end the relationship. Additionally, the narcissist even tries to create guilt, making you feel that you are wrong all the time.
5. Showing totally mixed emotions:
Generally at the end of the relation, especially when the narcissist is not getting his narcissistic supply, he/she tends to be confused. This confusion, in turn, results in totally mixed emotions of the narcissist.
For example, one day the narcissist may abuse you so harshly and immediately the next day comes back to you showering with love. This mixed emotions phase continues until they take a decision to leave you. Once the narcissist no longer values you, he/she discards you completely putting an end to your relationship.
The Patterns of the narcissist at the end of the relationship:
Although I revealed the 5 common things that narcissists do when he/she is about to move on.. Now, I’ll also show you the probable patterns and sequence of things a narcissist does at the end of the relationship.
Initially, once the excess affection i.e love showering stage is completed, the narcissist starts to lose interest in the relationship. Gradually, the relationship no longer gives him the ego boost/ the narcissistic supply.
This is when the narcissists start devaluing you. This initially begins in a funny way which as days pass by turns into serious devaluations.
Days later, when the narcissist no longer cares about you, they start abusing you for each and every reason. As the narcissist is not getting the expected narcissistic supply from you nor the relationship, his/her thoughts of leaving you, start off.
Thus, within a few days, this turns into occasional silent treatments given by the narcissist. Especially, this is the stage when the narcissist has mixed emotions, behaving completely unpredictable.
As the narcissist once decides to break the relationship, the search for a new victim and new narcissistic supply begins. Often this stage is manipulated by the narcissist with regular silent treatments and blaming you for everything.
Finally, this all ends up with a sudden discard completely putting an end to the relationship. The narcissist goes no contact and blocks you an everything. In most cases, they don’t even do a proper breakup putting you in total confusion and anticipation.
Another important thing to remember is, a narcissist can never bear to lose a narcissistic supply. Thus even though the narcissist discards and breaks the relationship, he/she tries to maintain the occasional contact thus keeping your hopes alive.
You can clearly see the signals, how your narcissist partner is slowly ending the relationship…
If not, he who was so sweet in the beginning why is he turning colder and colder? Moreover, you can’t ignore the serious fact that Narcissists discard people all of a sudden and move to new relationships.
This is what we can consider as a clear pre-warning sign of an excruciating breakup.
If you want to unlock his initial emotions such that you both will be deeply in love again. If you want to strongly make him feel like you are the most important person ever.
Here is what to do now..
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