Last Updated on September 1, 2022 by Team CrazyJackz
One of the peculiar quality of a narcissist is the lack of empathy,
Yes, Narcissists have zero empathy and this makes them so unpredictable, especially in relationships.
You never know when a narcissist leaves you or ignores you or loves you. So, where does this unpredictable relationship with the narcissist end up with? What a narcissist does at the end of a relationship? See This sends a SHIVER up a Narcissist man’s spine if he’s trying to leave you
5 Things a Narcissist does at the end of a Relationship:
See, you may have already seen many websites that bombard you with some absolute non-sense, which are in no way practical. But I at crazyJackz only give you practical conclusions that are true to real life.
1. Brainwashing the mind of the partner:
Brainwashing is one technique that narcissists use on people to get what they want. Simply, in accordance with time, they manipulate their partners to get the narcissist supply they want from them.
The biggest manipulations are done by the narcissist when the relationship is about to end. The narcissist completely brainwashes that you are the reason for the damage of the relationship. They even manipulate you to believe that you are a drama queen or some kind of a very sensitive person. In simple, the narcissist creates a belief in you (even without your knowledge) that you are unsuitable for any relationship.
2. Starts the search for a new narcissistic supply:
A typical narcissist is always in search of the narcissistic supply. So, as a relationship starts fading, the narcissist suffers a lack of narcissistic supply. The lower the narcissist feels your value, the lesser your relationship strokes his/her ego.
Thus, the narcissist constantly starts searching for a new narcissistic supply. This is generally a new partner or a new ‘friends with benefits’ relationship. You need to remember, that sometimes even if the narcissist cannot get a new partner, you can clearly see his/her search for the narcissistic supply from other sources like extreme focus on career, learning philosophy, etc. See The Mirror Technique to make a Narcissist skip all his supplies and obsess over you FOREVER.
3. Discard you all of a sudden:
This is the saddest thing, and also the biggest reality about a narcissist. When the narcissist is ending the relation, he/she does it in a sudden awkward way. They can suddenly block you and discard you even without any reason. In fact, this is what makes a breakup with the narcissist a nightmare.
Generally, the narcissist discard can range from blocking you on social media to completely ignoring you forever. That too all of a sudden without giving any closure to the partner. See If he’s shutting you out, here’s what’s missing…
4. Starts abusing you, while constantly triggering your guilt:
As I have already told you, narcissists have zero empathy. Thus this lack of empathy can turn up into some serious abuses especially when the narcissist is ready to move on. Additionally, some narcissists even feel that by abusing, making you cry and weep, they can get their control over the relationship.
So, if your narcissist is constantly abusing you and your abilities, soon your narcissist is going to end the relationship. Additionally, the narcissist even tries to create guilt, making you feel that you are wrong all the time.
5. Showing totally mixed emotions:
Generally at the end of the relation, especially when the narcissist is not getting his narcissistic supply, he/she tends to be confused. This confusion, in turn, results in totally mixed emotions of the narcissist.
For example, one day the narcissist may abuse you so harshly, and immediately the next day comes back to you showering with love. The phase of these mixed emotions continues until they take a decision to leave you. Once the narcissist no longer values you, he/she discards you completely putting an end to your relationship. See Why men leave “perfect” women: what EVERY woman needs to know
The Patterns of the Narcissist at the end of the Relationship:
Although I revealed the 5 common things that narcissists do when he/she is about to move on.. Now, I’ll also show you the probable patterns and sequence of things a narcissist does at the end of the relationship.
Initially, once the excess affection i.e love showering stage is completed, the narcissist starts to lose interest in the relationship. Gradually, the relationship no longer gives him the ego boost/ the narcissistic supply.
This is when the narcissist starts devaluing you. This initially begins in a funny way which as days pass by turns into serious devaluations.
Days later, when the narcissist no longer cares about you, they start abusing you for each and every reason. As the narcissist is not getting the expected narcissistic supply from you nor the relationship, his/her thoughts of leaving you, start off.
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Thus, within a few days, this turns into occasional silent treatments given by the narcissist. Especially, this is the stage when the narcissist has mixed emotions, behaving completely unpredictably.
As the narcissist once decides to break the relationship, the search for a new victim and new narcissistic supply begins. Often this stage is manipulated by the narcissist with regular silent treatments and blaming you for everything.
Finally, this all ends up with a sudden discard completely putting an end to the relationship. The narcissist goes no contact and blocks you and everything. In most cases, they don’t even do a proper breakup putting you in total confusion and anticipation.
Another important thing to remember is, a narcissist can never bear to lose a narcissistic supply. Thus even though the narcissist discards and breaks the relationship, he/she tries to maintain the occasional contact thus keeping your hopes alive.
Attention:
You can clearly see the signals, how your narcissist partner is slowly ending the relationship…
If not, he who was so sweet in the beginning why is he turning colder and colder? Moreover, you can’t ignore the serious fact that Narcissists discard people all of a sudden and move to new relationships.
This is what we can consider as a clear pre-warning sign of an excruciating breakup.
But..Now
If you want to unlock his initial emotions such that you both will be deeply in love again. If you want to strongly make him feel like you are the most important person ever.
Here is what to do now..
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How does a narcissist handle when they are totally dependent on you financially?
I swear to u they will plz n shut up n play the role ..until they dont need u..they d0 see potential..wont thank you wont recognize u as financial font speak will hurt u still but will have a slight tolerance
Wat if your the one who has had enough with a narcissist., and all of a sudden just end it.. With no warning. . just walked away. Leaving the narcissists in total shock.?
Exactly what I did Liz. After almost 4 years of devaluation, circular arguments, manipulation, Stone walling and so on.. I decided enough was enough. I had finally opened my eyes to the fact that this person was never going to admit or change her damaging behavior. The way I went about the breakup, wasn’t the most graceful. But it had to be done in order to break free. She then started the typical smear campaign, trying to paint me as the Narc because of the way I finally got sick and tired of the abuse.
I have a question? So the narcissist can go no contact as well?? But for us to break free from them we have to go no contact? Does that make us just as bad? Im so confused! Going through trying to make a move to leave and stay gone for good! Been with this man for almost 7 years iam a shell of what i used to be and have no idea how to start getting me back
I left mine when he was out of town…Avoided all conflict and have NO Contact now. I’m a bird out of her cage!!
Jenn, I can totally relate with your questions/post, having been with this man nearly nine years and several attempts to end it, including marrying and divorcing, but still simply coexisting, walking through life as a zombie, barely remembering what I once was as a person, in my prior (pre-narc) life. It’s sad and all the posts I read make it sound like it’s as easy as walking away when there are so many factors that need extinguishing that once again, “I”, and only me, will be the one left damaged even further, if I can ever find the energy to make myself endure yet another breakup to end this forever. It’s hard because I have now simply become numb to him and life in general, simply going through the motions with very little enjoyment in life and left with lliterally only a very small candle flame burning deep inside of me powering me to simply exist with him, let alone, find the power deep inside to endure the pain to go through the drama that I know is really gonna hurt bad by saying goodbye forever to someone I have invested so much of my life in and I truly love! I just wish there were better answers for a step by step plan to take with every detail that could possibly happen be covered in that plan…. lost and hopeless
They all go by one rule book and so as a survivor, we are left with 1 plan of action.. get out and no contact! Now co-parenting will not allow that and that’s my struggle right now. I wish he wasn’t a factor in my life because it does still hurt seeing him act as if he’s better without me.. but truth is, you are SO much better without him! The truth is he never loved me. It was fake and he used my good nature to feed his ego. Who wants to consistently feel not good enough? Without him you ARE better.
I think the confusion over what makes a narcissist has to do with knowing exactly what that term means. A narcissist is self-centered, petulant and childish. They expect others to make them happy. They withhold
affection and make you feel guilty and unworthy. Just because you finally get the courage to cut all ties suddenly doesn’t make you a narcissist when you have been on receiving end of abuse; it makes you a survivor. Narcissists have all kinds of ways they manipulate/control their partners. For example; “YOU don’t make ME happy”. I used to get that all the time. After 25 years of that I finally got the courage to leave. I knew I was healthy when I realized that my response to that accusation should have been “YOU don’t make ME happy!!” Of course their was the emotional and physical abuse as well. Now I can spot the type right away. I don’t try to explain myself, that would give them power. I just walk away from the drama.
I found this very helpful and it absolutely shed some light on what and why things continue to spiral out of control and then lighten up for s few days . But what shocked me was the video at the end is that part of your post or just an advertisement, from What I’ve learned through the physiology & my personal experiences is that the end goal is to get away from the abusive Narc Not try to tap into his soul urge , bc Ive tried just about every thing to convince myself I condo something to change the behavior of the Narc and it’s failed . So why is this video encouraging one to stay with the abuser ???? I’m not trying to be rude just trying to understand??? I wld love to know is the video really part of this post ???
Hello Jessa.. Glad you found the post very helpful. Coming to your doubt.. yes, the video is just an advertisement affiliate which is not related/owned by us. As you know, we run this website with hundreds of updates each day. We stand on our word to provide expert practical content that too absolutely free for the benefit of people. And so to cover up our expenses we keep ads like those.. That’s it 🙂
Hi,Dan here my wife and I lost son 3 yrs ago still cant get close to her at all she dissapears each month for a week or so . Tried to track or use spy tactics but just takes money with no results. Think she doesn’t want me husband 30 yrs she couldn’t care less about that hurt I got her flowers and a card so we could go together a gift she would like. What I got from her was her saying she has wasted 30 yrs on me. That cut like knife she is showing a lot of tendices like she a Narcissist with PTSD also don’t know which way to turn we also have two adult children thinking that she is a Narcissist also so lost.
He always told me he was to tired to talk saw 2 paths reuniting getting to know eachother all over again then marriage he was in love with me I was that missing piece last yr started feeling sick intuitively my soul had a huge hole he rubbed his vacation in my face quit texting me hateful when I was on workmans comp from an injury then the kicker posted him and and a woman kissing in a bar I asked him if he got my gift I sent him he lied I know he got it.monday and said no then 2 days later in an mean way sad yeah did not bother to open it why did he llie and play me like a game piece and destroyed my self worth and esteem I’m not a evil woman my love is pure