If a narcissist is asked who is the most important person in the world, the answer would be himself.
A narcissist is a person who feels an excessive self-worth and self-love to himself. They think that they are so great that they deserve everything great.
Obviously, a relationship with such a person is very difficult. And finally, the breakup is much more difficult and disastrous to any other normal partner.
So coming to the main point. will a narcissist come back if you are strong again? If so, why do they come back? What is the real reason and why will he/she come back?
5 Reasons why do narcissist come back when you’re strong again:
See, you may have already seen many websites which bombard you with some absolute non sense, which are no way practical. But I at crazyJackz only give you practical conclusions that are true to real life.
1. They can’t resist being ignored and rejected:
One of the biggest thing that narcissists can’t bear at all is the rejection and the act of being ignored. Most of the narcissists even believe in the words like “If they are not affected by your absence, your presence never mattered”
So what happens when you get back to normal and stay strong? This gives a clear sign that you are no way affected by the narcissist’s absence. Thus he/she feels that their presence did not matter to you. This creates a severe pain and rejection in the narcissist’s heart forcing them to come back to you. Read what happens when you ignore a narcissist who dumped you?
2. He/she starts assuming that you have a lot of high value:
Tell me what do you think if you see a person being strong within few days after the breakup? we tend to feel that the person is so strong and capable. The same happens in the case of the narcissist too. If they see you strong again, they feel that you are so capable and thus unconsciously assumes you as a high-value person. They even think that you are a lot higher value person than he/she thought earlier.
The main difference between the narcissist and the normal people is that a narcissist gives a huge importance to high-value things and high-value people. This super high importance makes them think that they should not miss you and thus, will come back to you finally.
3. They can’t agree that you have an upper hand in the relation:
In a relation, a person having the upper hand is the one that is least affected. Many times even this is the person who is responsible for the breakup. As we know, Narcissists often believe that they have an upper hand in every relation. Thus they even think that they have an upper hand in the relationship, when compared to you.
Once they see you strong again, they totally get surprised. The narcissist starts to wonder that if they never had the upper hand in the relationship. He/she can’t agree to this fact that you have an upper hand and that you can get back to life easily. Thus a narcissist feels puzzled, confused, finally developing a huge conflict inside. This conflict often makes them get back to you so easily. Read Does he still think about me? 9 Signs he definitely does
4. The Narcissist can’t bear to lose his/her narcissistic supply:
Do you know what a narcissist expects after a breakup? You would still think about him/her. You would feel completely devastated as the narcissist has broken up. You would start missing them and try to contact them. You would apologize and even cry for them to get back the relationship.
Yes, This is what a typical narcissist expects after a breakup. This is what becomes the no1 narcissistic supply that can make them feel great and superior. So in the beginning after the breakup, when you are feeling bad, the narcissist feels the greatness. But once you become strong, slowly he/she lacks the narcissistic supply expected. This is what makes them go wild and finally come back to you. Read Do Narcissists come back after silent treatment? (Based on Psychology)
5. Fear of replacement pushes them so much:
One of the greatest ways to attack a narcissist is to replace them. Yes, narcissist constantly fears replacement and can’t bear replacing them at any cost. So once you are strong again, slowly fears of narcissist starts over. He/she start fearing that you would replace them and find a new partner.
Till then he/she will be in a confidence that you will keep thinking about them and won’t seek a new partner. Once you start to get stronger again, this confidence turns down into a constant fear that you might enter a new relation replacing the narcissist completely.
Do you know?
In addition to the above five reasons, even the peer pressure can make the narcissist come back to you. Yes, when you become strong again, your common friends and the friends discuss ‘all about you’ with the narcissist. This makes them, more and more angry thinking more about you.
All he/she wants to prove now is that you still love them. For a narcissist, even this becomes a strong force pushing to come back to you.
Imagine, what if you open the mobile, there comes a message “I MISS YOU, I NEED YOU” from your narcissist ex?
What if they start chasing you, pleading you even in-front of all your friends?
This is what happens..
When you strongly trigger the narcissist’s right side brain, the emotional brain. Yes, You are just a step away from using the 3 secret psychological loopholes that makes you narcissist ex to come Crawling back to you.
So Here is what to do..