Findom Guide: 10 Must-Know Findomme Tips for Ultimate Domme Control

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Last Updated on March 22, 2025 by Team CrazyJackz

To embark on the journey of financial domination (findom), one must understand the dynamics of it, where a financial submissive willingly gives funds or gifts to a financial dominant. However, to be able to successfully navigate this realm and have ultimate domme control more key principles and practices are necessary.

In this guide we explore ten important tips to know if you are an aspiring, or already are a findomme, by looking at what people within the community have to say. These tips will help you acquire the confidence you need to dominate your findome lifestyle and achieve your financial goals.

1. Develop your own Domme style and flavor:

To achieve ultimate control in Findom, the most important thing is to cultivate your own unique Domme style and flavor. Well, there’s no one way to do it; what works for one Domme might not work for another. So be yourself; and there’s no point in being fake as you can be found out quite easily.

Of course you can pull some inspiration from other Dommes, but it is never a good idea to copy other ones’ content or personas. Command your submissive with your own original approach, whether it’s commanding, spoiled, or bratty. Your persona needs to remain consistent in everything you interact and create. Find and get comfortable in a style that pleases you and attracts the submissives you wish to have.

2. Consider using “wallet drain games”

To engage submissives and possibly increase tributes, consider using “wallet drain games,” also known as “retweet games.” These games are about setting a monetary value for interactions (likes, comments, retweets) on a social media post (usually on Twitter) within a given time. The submissive agrees to pay for the total engagement in that period. Another idea is to try “whale sub” (a high paying submissive) and you may get a significant tribute. “Wallet drain games” can be a fun, interactive method to encourage larger tributes through gamification and community involvement.

3. Avoid engaging with “bait tweets”

One of the most important things to do to keep your Domme image and authority is to avoid engaging in any kind of bait tweets. These are public posts where, usually, individuals who would be potential subs are announcing that they have funds and are willing to be sent to a Domme. When you directly reply to such tweets with a simple “approach” or something similar, you come across as “thirsty” and “desperate”. This is undermining the power dynamic of Findom, where submissives should be the ones to reach out and offer tribute.

Remember, you are not trying to convince potential submissives of your worth. They will come to you, and you will be approached by legitimate ‘pay pigs’. Often we make the mistake of responding to bait tweets that someone else has tweeted, by tweeting back publicly. However you come off as needy, and this may act as a turn off for those who might have genuine interest.

4. Price yourself right:

In Findom, it’s always important to understand your value. In fact, submissives are paying for your attention and the dynamic you provide. So, your time is always worth more than the low tributes. You should set your rates with confidence. You may be somewhat flexible, but never beg or act as if you are doing the submissive a favor by accepting their tribute. Instead, focus on the understanding that their contribution is an honor. Engage with them in such a way that they feel that their money is already yours because they are engaging with you for this specific purpose.

5. Do not try to convince submissives why you are a good Domme

In Findom, never convince a submissive of your worth. They should want to be dominated by you and feel privileged to tribute. You are in control, and they desire this dynamic. So if you keep convincing submissives about your value, you’ll come across as desperate, taking away your authority. Therefore, instead of selling yourself, project confidence and dominance. Your persona should demonstrate that you are worthy without needing to justify it. So always remember that you should not have to prove yourself to the submissives, instead they should prove themselves to you.

6. Do not bargain with submissives

A crucial element of maintaining your dominant position in Findom is to never bargain with submissives. Bargaining takes away the power dynamic you have created. Keep in mind that you are not a vendor at a market open to negotiation. If a submissive tries to bargain over the amount of tribute or the terms of a drain, it is important to stand firm. Rejecting low offers with such a reaction as ‘ewww’ can lend them a feeling of inferiority. So, try it next time.

Remember that submissives are there to give tribute, not to bargain. Refusing to bargain allows you to keep control and to reinforce the idea that their contributions are given out of a desire to serve you, not as part of a transaction.

7. Do not engage in activities for “tips”

As a Domme in Findom, it is important to remember your role. Keep in mind that you are a Dom. You are not a McDonald’s drive through and you are not here to do things for tips. If someone comes up to you and asks to tip you on a small amount asking you to do a certain action for it, understand that ‘they are not really a sub, they are a fetishist, they are different’.

In genuine Findom, tributes are given because a submissive wants to serve and be dominated, not as a payment for a service in a transactional sense. You are free to engage in activities for “tips” if you wish, however you should be aware this is not the same world which might not serve your goals as a Findomme. Your time and attention as a Domme hold value. The foundation of Findom is the submissive’s willingness to give freely out of their submission, beyond mere “tips.”

8. Include a tribute amount in your bio (as an initial requirement for interaction)

To effectively manage interactions and filter out time-wasters, it is highly recommended to include a tribute amount in your bio as a prerequisite for any engagement. This is clearly setting out exactly what is expected from the start. In the location section of your Twitter profile, you can explicitly state an amount followed by “or no reply”. This serves as your “initial tribute”.

9. Only reply to submissives who have sent an initial tribute

Never reply to a submissive who has not sent this initial tribute, even if they send you a hundred messages. For example, wait for them to message you that they have sent the tribute, such as with a message like “sent goddess” or “paid goddess”. Then you can confirm the payment. This practice acts as a crucial boundary. If a submissive cannot follow this simple instruction, they are not worth your time. If you follow this rule, you set yourself up as the dominant one and only those who are serious about engaging will get your attention. This also fits with the idea of a submissive tributing for your time even before a drain starts. By making an initial tribute a non-negotiable requirement for interaction, you assert your value and control from the very first contact.

10. Research potential submissives by looking up their usernames

If you get a new potential submissive to contact you, it’s best to research their username. One Domme suggests: “Go in the search bar look up their username to see if other doms are talking about them”.

This simple step can provide valuable information about the individual’s past interactions within the Findom community. Other Dommes might have shared their experiences, if the person has ‘wasted my time,’ ‘not paid,’ or done other problematic things. It can definitely save you from a headache by helping you identify and avoid potential time wasters or problematic individuals by looking up someone’s username. 

11. Maintain the expectation that a submissive’s initial payment is never enough

After the submissive sends the initial tribute, maintain the understanding that it is “never enough”. After the first payment, make it out like – you want more.. you deserve more.. Build the persona that your needs and desires are ongoing. Imply that even after a tribute, further contributions are expected and deserved. It encourages a continuous flow of funds, especially from those who are becoming “pay pigs” – people who will start saying “let me know when you need to treat yourself or let me know when you’re going out with your friends so I can fund it”. This expectation encourages submissives to keep tributing and fulfilling your financial desires.

12. Connect with “retweet pigs”

Try to get in touch with what are called ‘retweet pigs’. These are people in the Findom community who like to retweet content from dominatrixes, especially new ones. Engaging with “retweet pigs” will help you massively increase the visibility of your profile and content to a larger audience of potential submissives. This networking can be a great way to grow your presence and get more attention in the Findom community.

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